How Can I Help My Neurodivergent Child Thrive In School?
By Julie Diamond, OCT
First of all, let’s define what ‘neurodivergent’ means…
"Neurodivergent" is a term used to describe individuals whose brain functions, processes, or behaviours differ from what is typically expected or considered "neurotypical." It includes a range of conditions such as autism, ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, and others. People who are neurodivergent may experience the world, think, learn, or process information differently than those who are neurotypical (those without such conditions). The term is often used to promote a more inclusive and accepting view of cognitive diversity, highlighting that these differences are natural variations of human brain functioning rather than disorders.
Supporting your neurodivergent child is a journey filled with learning, love, and discovery. As a Special Education teacher and founder of a tutoring company, I’ve worked with many incredible children who think, learn, and experience the world in their own unique ways. I’ve seen firsthand the challenges parents face - wondering if they’re doing enough, searching for the right resources, and hoping to provide the best possible future for their child. I’ve also witnessed the incredible strengths, creativity, and resilience that neurodivergent children bring to the world.
If you're feeling overwhelmed or unsure of where to start, know that you’re not alone. With the right strategies, advocacy, and mindset, you can help your child thrive academically, socially, and emotionally. In this guide, I’ll share practical, compassionate, and research-backed tips to support your neurodivergent child - whether they have autism, ADHD, dyslexia, or another learning difference. Together, we can create an environment where your child feels understood, empowered, and ready to reach their full potential.
Strategies to Help Your Child Thrive
1. Understand Your Child’s Neurodiversity
Neurodiversity recognizes that variations in brain function are natural and valuable. Conditions like autism, ADHD, and dyslexia are part of this spectrum. Embracing neurodiversity means appreciating your child's unique perspective and strengths.
Ways to Start the Process:
Educate Yourself About Neurodiversity
Read books, articles, and research about neurodivergent conditions.
Follow advocacy groups and experts who provide insights into neurodivergent experiences.
If possible, take online courses or attend webinars on neurodiversity.
Listen to Neurodivergent Voices
Seek out the perspectives of neurodivergent individuals.
Watch TED Talks, blogs, and social media accounts run by neurodivergent self-advocates.
Encourage open and judgment-free conversations with your child or family member.
Challenge Stereotypes and Misconceptions
Recognize that neurodivergent individuals are not "broken" or in need of "fixing."
Understand that intelligence, abilities, and potential vary among neurodivergent people.
Avoid using outdated or negative language when discussing neurodiversity.
Observe and Learn from Your Loved One
Every neurodivergent person is unique. Take time to observe and learn your child’s specific strengths, challenges, and communication styles because they will be your best teacher to learn how to support them.
Be patient and open to different ways of thinking and expressing emotions.
Practice Inclusive Communication
Some neurodivergent individuals may communicate differently, whether through body language, assistive devices, or nonverbal cues.
Adapt your communication style to be more accessible, such as giving extra processing time or using clear and direct language.
2. Create a Supportive Home Environment
A calm and structured home environment can significantly benefit neurodivergent children. Establishing routines provides predictability, which can reduce anxiety. Designate specific areas for activities like studying or relaxation to help your child associate spaces with certain tasks. Our previous blog, "How Can You Create a Calm and Supportive Home Environment to Boost Your Child's Success?" delves deeper into strategies to foster such an environment.
3. Collaborate with Educators
Building a strong partnership with your child's teachers is crucial. Regular communication ensures that both home and school environments are aligned in supporting your child's needs. Share insights about what strategies work best for your child and be open to feedback from educators. If you aren’t feeling comfortable with the support at your child’s school, reach out to another organization, such as a tutoring company with Special Education teachers as tutors, who can provide you with guidance and advocate for your child.
4. Advocate for Individualized Education Plans (IEPs)
An IEP is a customized educational plan designed to meet your child's unique needs. Collaborate with the school to develop an IEP that outlines specific goals, accommodations, and support services. Regularly review and adjust the plan to ensure it remains effective.
If you need any assistance with decoding your child’s IEP, we offer an IEP Review Meeting. This meeting is a consultation service where our experienced educators meet with you to discuss your child’s current IEP and help you prepare for upcoming school meetings. During this meeting, we’ll break down the IEP document, explain its contents in detail, and offer expert advice on how to advocate for your child’s educational needs. Our goal is to ensure that the IEP aligns with your child’s strengths, challenges, and long-term goals.
5. Encourage Social Skill Development
Social interactions can be challenging for some neurodivergent children. Encourage participation in structured social activities where they can practice and develop these skills in a supportive setting. Our blog, "How Can I Help My Child Build Strong Social Skills and Feel More Comfortable in Group Settings?" offers practical tips to assist in this area.
6. Utilize Assistive Technologies
Technology can be a powerful tool in supporting neurodivergent children. Tools like speech-to-text software (Google Read and Write), organizational apps, and interactive learning programs cater to various learning styles. AI-powered tools are helping students with disabilities, providing assistive technology to support individuals like Makenzie Gilkison, a dyslexic student, in academic tasks. Though AI still has a ways to go to better support students without doing the work for them.
7. Focus on Strengths and Interests
Every child has unique strengths and passions. Identify and nurture your child’s interests to boost confidence and provide avenues for learning and socialization. Supporting your child's passions can lead to meaningful engagement. We have seen our tutors connect basketball to math, the movie Encanto into a reader’s theatre writing and reading activity, and even Taylor Swift into an economics/math lesson.
8. Implement Mindfulness Practices
Mindfulness can help neurodivergent children manage stress and improve focus. Simple techniques like deep breathing, guided imagery, or yoga can be incorporated into daily routines. Our blog, "What are Mindful Activities That I Can Do With Kids?" explores these techniques in detail.
9. Seek Support Networks
Connecting with other parents and support groups can provide valuable insights and emotional support. Organizations like Autism Ontario offer families resources and access to a community. Another great organization is Spectrum of Light Services who offers expert support for parents navigating the challenges of supporting neurodivergent children.
10. Prioritize Your Self-Care
Supporting a neurodivergent child can be demanding. Ensure you also take time for self-care to maintain your well-being. This balance enables you to be more present and effective in your support. While you may not always be able to get out to the gym every night, try to carve out time for yourself each day for some time to yourself.
11. Stay Informed
The field of neurodiversity is continually evolving. Stay updated with the latest research, strategies, and resources to provide the best support for your child.
By implementing these strategies, you can create a nurturing environment that celebrates your child's uniqueness and supports their development. Remember, you're not alone on this journey - there are communities and resources available to support both you and your child.