How Can I Help My Child Build Strong Social Skills and Feel More Comfortable at School?

Jan 6

by Julie Diamond, OCT

Returning from the holiday break, as the school year progresses, new social dynamics can emerge for your child. Mid-year transitions often bring friendships, classroom routines, and emotional well-being shifts. These changes are natural but can also present challenges that affect your child’s confidence and sense of belonging.

As teachers, we understand the importance of helping children navigate social adjustments.

Here are practical strategies to support your child's emotional health and friendships as the school year continues:

1. Recognize and Validate Their Feelings

By mid-year, children may feel a mix of emotions – excitement, frustration, or even loneliness. It’s important to acknowledge and normalize these feelings. Kids may find it hard to express what they’re experiencing, especially if they’re facing social changes or feeling left out.

Start by reassuring them that their feelings are valid. You might say, “It’s normal to feel a little different as the year goes on. Sometimes friendships change, and that’s okay. I’m here if you want to talk about it.”

Ask open-ended questions to encourage them to share more:

“Who did you spend time with at recess today?”
“What’s something that made you feel happy or proud this week?”
“Is there anything you’re feeling unsure about at school?”

When children feel heard and supported, they are more likely to open up and work through social challenges.

2. Foster Friendships Beyond the Classroom

Sometimes, school social circles can feel overwhelming or limiting. Encourage your child to explore friendships outside of the classroom by participating in extracurricular activities. Mid-year is a great time to join new clubs or programs, as many start fresh after winter break.

Look for community programs in areas like:

Sports teams or swimming lessons
Art, dance, or music classes
Youth groups or after-school programs

These activities give your child opportunities to meet peers with shared interests, helping them form new connections and boost their confidence.

3. Prioritize Routine and Downtime

During the winter, days feel shorter, so maintaining a consistent routine is essential. Predictable schedules provide comfort and stability, especially when social dynamics at school feel uncertain.

Ensure your child gets enough rest, physical activity, and relaxation time. The Canadian Paediatric Society recommends:

9-12 hours of sleep for ages 6-12
8-10 hours for teens

Help your child unwind by encouraging quiet activities before bed, like reading or listening to calming music. Reducing screen time in the evening can improve their quality of sleep, which will positively affect their mood and emotional regulation.

Check out a previous blog post I wrote about bedtime reflection to end your day together on a mindful note.

4. Encourage Healthy Coping Strategies

Children learn a lot by watching how adults manage stress and emotions. Model healthy coping mechanisms, such as deep breathing, journaling, or going for walks. Share your experiences with them in age-appropriate ways. For example, you might say, “I had a busy day at work, so I’m going to take a few minutes to relax with some music. Would you like to join me?”

At my house, we all take 20 minutes of ‘alone time’ when we come home from school/work. This downtime has helped us decompress from the day and transition into the evenings together calmly. Teaching your child how to manage stress in positive ways equips them with a valuable life skill.

5. Practice Social Skills Through Role-Playing

Social interactions can be tricky, especially mid-year when friendship groups feel more established. Role-playing is a fun and low-pressure way to help your child develop social skills and confidence.

Pick a situation they’ve encountered, like asking to join a game at recess. Act out the scenario, taking turns playing different roles. This practice helps them feel more comfortable and prepares them to navigate real-life interactions.

6. Stay Connected with Teachers and School Staff

Teachers often have insight into your child’s social world at school. If you notice ongoing social challenges, reach out to their teacher or school counselor. They can provide support, suggest strategies, or even facilitate peer groups that promote inclusivity and friendship-building.

Check out one of our previous blog posts about how to build strong communication with your child’s teacher. Creating this relationship can help you and your child’s teacher be proactive and give each other insight into what’s happening at home and school.

7. Monitor for Signs of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

As the days grow shorter, some children experience changes in mood. If your child seems unusually tired, irritable, or withdrawn, they may be feeling the effects of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). Encourage outdoor play during daylight hours and keep their environment bright and engaging.

If symptoms persist, consult with a healthcare professional. Small adjustments, like light therapy or more physical activity, can make a big difference.

Supporting your child’s social adjustment mid-year is all about balance – creating structure while allowing room for growth and self-expression. Through open communication, encouraging new friendships, and modeling positive coping strategies, you’re equipping your child with the tools they need to thrive for the rest of the school year and beyond.

At Diamond Teachers Group, we’re here to support families with personalized tutoring and emotional well-being resources.

Julie Diamond